There are challenges in every divorce, but you still want to minimize the problems and complications as much as possible. The problem for many people in divorce is that they don't realize the mistakes they're making and what those mistakes will cost them while they are in the process. Only in hindsight do they learn how they should have handled things.

You can avoid these mistakes. By working with an experienced attorney, you can receive valuable counsel and help to minimize the excess stress and avoid the mistakes that too many people have made in the past. At Payne & Associates, PLLC, we provide this type of representation. From our Winston-Salem office, we have years of experience representing clients throughout North Carolina's Triad in all types of divorce and family law matters. We have the knowledge and experience to help you through the process.

In our experience, we have seen a number of mistakes that people commonly make when going through their divorces. These are things you should positively avoid in your divorce:

  • Letting your emotions hinder your case: This is one of the most common mistakes we have seen. Because divorce is such an emotional event, it makes sense to want to hold grudges and lash out at the other party. But it is critical to avoid using the legal process of divorce as a weapon against your spouse. If your judgment is clouded, you could make mistakes and poor decisions that will have a negative impact on you and your children for years to come.

"I understand you're probably upset about something with your spouse, and it's ok to vent to me, your attorney. I'm used to it! But we need to make sure you don't take that emotion into the courtroom or make any critical decisions based on your future. There's too much at stake. That's what I'm here for: to help you see through the emotion of the moment and make smart decisions."

∙ Attorney Jennifer Payne

  • Getting your children involved in the custody decisions: Although your divorce is undoubtedly difficult for you, it is even more difficult for your children. Having to choose between mom and dad or having to make other critical decisions in the divorce is tragic for the children. During the divorce process, we should be shielding them as much as possible from this type of emotional trauma.
  • Failing to keep your financial records in order: Make sure you do everything you can to have a firm grasp on your financial situation. If you don't have the information, don't worry. We can get it. But if you do have access, it saves time and money and make sure nothing is left out.
  • Behaving badly on social media: In the age of Facebook, Twitter and other social media outlets, people can communicate to large groups of people with a click of a cell phone. People often use this communicating power to speak badly of their ex-spouses or show themselves having the times of their lives to prove they've moved on. However, if you are in the midst of a divorce or considering a divorce, it is critical to avoid portraying any suspect behavior, even talking badly about your ex, on social media, as it could severely hinder your position in the divorce case.

These are just a few examples of mistakes we have seen people commonly make in divorce. Our lawyers can see pitfalls like this before you fall into them. Let us help you through your divorce case to protect your interests and your future.

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